What in the world do I include in my invite?!

It’s not everyday you send an invitation suite!

Wedding invitations aren’t just an everyday card. There are requirements and you’ll need feedback. It can be quite overwhelming to decide what to send and what to leave out. Personal website? Detailed reception cards? As if you didn’t have enough things to sort out before the big day! 

So what in the world do you send with an invitation?!

What in the world do I include in my invite?!

Not every celebration is the same, so while the one bride may need an elaborate set with a separate reception card and a weekend itinerary for her fete, you may only need an invitation with a note card with a website mention where more information can be found. There are many choices and styles, from traditional to trendy.

Many people opt for a weekend card containing a lot of details, while others go for the traditional suite where proper wedding etiquette is a must. Like your wedding, your wedding stationery should be personal, and customized to your liking.

No idea where to start? Below are some examples of the many types of wedding suites and what they contain.

Below I just go into the specifics of invites and all that comes with them, and not ‘Save the Date’ cards. I recommend sending Save the Date as soon as you have verified the date. Small tip; don’t include the location because this may change before the invites go to print. Keep it simple, the purpose is just to let people know so they can keep the date free. I’ll have a separate post for Save the Date cards online soon.
What in the world do I include in my invite?!

The basics

Invitation with envelope + reply card

Keeping it to a minimal, for those who only need the basics. The two cards most weddings can’t live without are the invitation, of course, and a reply card, which is the usual method by which guests will RSVP for the wedding. I always recommend ordering both return and guest addressing (using digital calligraphy) for all envelopes and all sets, to make your life just a little easier.

Keeping it down to two cards is the best when you don’t need to include additional details regarding directions, accommodations, attire, weekend events or other information.Sweet and simple.

If you do need those items, you could opt for a more elaborate set or you could use a personal website for your wedding where all the extra details pertaining to your wedding can be found.  I never recommend including the wedding website url on the invitation itself, or on RSVP cards, which guests send back, so I think a mini card is the perfect solution. Some opt for r.s.v.p. via e-mail, I’m also not a fan of this. I recommend providing the reply card and pre-addressed and stamped envelopes when possible. In these examples you’ll see a postcard version stamped and also an envelope. I hope this doesn’t distract. You could to either. Lately I’m seeing more couples using the pre-stamped envelope version, which I also personally prefer but then again, I am a paper lover.

The essentials

Invitation with envelope + reply card with envelope + mini card

This is the most common choice among couples if they have a few additional wedding details they need to communicate to their guests, but don’t necessarily want to include on a separate printed card. It is very common for couples to share preferences regarding guest attire, booking details for hotel room blocks, registries and even directions on a wedding website that guests can access as needed. Like I mentioned earlier I never recommend including the wedding website url on the invitation itself, or on rsvp cards, which guests send back, so I think a mini card is the perfect solution.

This suite is also a great choice if the ceremony and reception take place at the same location or if the couple prefers to include reception information on the invitation card, instead of on a separate reception card.

What in the world do I include in my invite?!

I never recommend including the wedding website url on the invitation itself,
or on RSVP cards, which guests send back, so I think a mini card is the perfect solution

What in the world do I include in my invite?!

Traditional

Invitation with envelope + reply card with envelope + reception card + mini card

There are certain etiquette guidelines for wedding stationery that are considered the traditional mode of inviting guests to a celebration. Not all couples choose to follow them, but many are fans of knowing the rules and fitting them into their style of celebration. If you are hosting a formal, traditional celebration with the ceremony at a place of worship and the reception at another location, then one of the hallmarks of that kind of fete is to include a separate reception card.

Reception cards free the invite of the additional wording associated with reception details. The reception card will indicate the location, time, and occasionally the attire preferred for the celebration. A traditional suite has all the elements of the essential set, but with the timeless addition of a card focused on the wedding day celebration occurring post-ceremony.

A weekend invite

Invitation with envelope + reply card with envelope + full details card or event card + optional reception card

This set is for those that have a weekend full of events revolving around the wedding, where often the events will all take place at one location. The guests for the most part are invited for the entire weekend (hence the name). This means you’ll need a few more items in your wedding suite. An invite with reply card along with a full details card or event card, plus reception card and mini card for website details.

For those going all out there could be an additional card for an event that the wedding couple has arranged for the guests. Think of a hayride or boat trip in the area of the wedding location. It’s a way of keeping guests occupied and amused; Maybe even keeping them out of the way for a while while decorations are being attended to?

There are some creative ways of doing this, one being an extended tri-fold card set that gives guests a vacation feeling because of the postcard set appearance. I’m going to show you visually… sometimes I just don’t have the right words!

On the right here (or below if your using your phone) you’ll see an example of an extended tri-fold card from; www.shhhmydarling.com

Depending on your humor, you could add a Sunday hangover brunch ‘voucher’on the last card. This is not for everyone, but I really like a card with humor!

What in the world do I include in my invite?!

The Ultimate Suite

For paper lovers ♥

Invitation and reply card? Check.
Envelope printing?Check.
Reception card? Check.
Details card? Check?
Events card? Check.

Invitation with envelope + reply card with envelope + full details card + weekend itinerary + optional reception card

Sometimes, when you order wedding stationery, you have to have it ALL, am I right?  Usually, this type of suite is recommended for a larger fete, a destination wedding, a weekend-long celebration or for couples that just really love paper (Hey! That’s me too!).

Ultimate suite would usually have several enclosure cards, as well as a few bonus frills, like envelope liners, wax seals, torn edges, tags and possibly even a ribbon wrap. I’m a big fan of getting the details right, if you’re looking to add some frills to your suite, check out this beauty below ♥.

Source:  Hey Wedding Lady Gray Calligraphy and Vellum Wedding Invitation
Photo by TAMARA GIGOLA PHOTOGRAPHY, Stationery Design by OKSANAMIKE

Consider having the additional details and event cards in various sizes and for events with lots of details or shuttle information, an extended tri-fold card might be a good fit. There are awesome designers out there to help you out!

What in the world do I include in my invite?!

Hiring professionals for this is what I’d recommend. But like I always say, if you are lucky enough to have creative, and talented people in your inner circle don’t hesitate in using their services if you’re on a tight budget. It’s up to you what it is worth. I’m currently creating a new brochure titled ‘How much is your wedding worth?

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You may of missed a few things that you associate with wedding stationery, am I right? Things like menu cards, thank you cards, escort cards and table numbers. I’ll post about those too, and provide templates, but for this time it’s all about the invitation and what in the world do you include with it?!

If you have any questions or would like to recommend a favourite designer or type of invitation suite I’d love it if you’d share below in the comments!

Wishing you a good weekend and happy wedding planning!

Fijn weekend ♥

xoxo Micheile

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